Meeting new friends can be the start of something big
Have you made a lot of friends at your college or career school? Or do you mainly keep to yourself and find it hard to meet new people? If you are feeling lonely and shy about making new friends, try these tips. They may help you find the confidence to reach out to someone new. Feeling connected and supported by a group of friends can improve your attitude and your enjoyment of school. Give it a try today!
Tip 1: Ask questions
If you aren’t sure how to start a conversation with someone, the easiest way to begin is to ask a simple question. Usually people are happy to share a little bit about themselves if you ask the right questions. Sample questions might be:
- Where did you go to high school?
- I like your shoes; where did you get them?
- Did you understand this assignment?
- How do you like this class?
- What kind of phone is that? Do you like it?
Tip 2: Give a compliment
Another option for starting up a conversation is to offer a compliment. This immediately shows that you are friendly, and people love to receive positive feedback. You can compliment something the person is wearing, or compliment something they did in class.
Tip 3: Learn to listen
A large part of being a good friend is being a good listener. Pay attention to what a person talks about, and then follow up on those topics the next time you see them. This will show them that you care enough to remember what’s going on in their life.
Tip 4: Share something about yourself
When you are meeting new people, there’s a fine line to tread. You don’t want to dominate the conversation by talking about yourself too much. But you don’t want to withhold information about yourself either. Try to strike a balance between finding out about the other person and sharing a little about yourself too.
Tip 5: Find something to laugh about
Laughter is one of the quickest pathways to friendship. Without disrupting class, find something that you can laugh about. Don’t try too hard to be funny—that usually doesn’t work. But be on the lookout for ways to share a laugh.
Tip 6: Get connected on social media
Once you’ve talked to someone a few times, you might want to get their text number, friend them on Facebook, or follow them on a social media platform.
Tip 7: Meet them outside of class
Once you’ve spoken with a new person in your class, you may have the chance to see them outside of class too. Try finding them at lunch time or see if they want to meet in the library to study.
Tip 8: Join a club or activity
Extra-curricular activities can help you make new friends. See if your school has student council, community service projects, sports, or other activities that you can join.
We hope these tips help you navigate the in’s and out’s of making new friends during your years at college or career school. Having friends not only makes your experience more fun, but it also starts building a network of support that could last you a lifetime.
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